Some will say you are not guving things a chance. I have heard that before and ended up wanting to go back home to the Netherlands for well over 6 years despite of that. This time it was different. I came back and was very quickly very sure that this was not what I wanted for my myself and my family. It was a pity since the job at IRS would have meant being able to work with some of the best in the field.

But here I was at a terrible dilemma. What to do if the company you work for is everything you could ever want but at the same time the country it is situated in, in this case my country of origin is no longer having an appeal?

Sure I could probably get used to the hurried lifestyle of the average Dutchman, sure I could get used to living in an overcrowded country but the key question became “did I want to get used to this? I came to the conclusion that I did not and acted upon that.

I will get into more detail in following posts bit for now I guess this summarizes the current position.

Wasn’t that a big waste of time and money?
In the past days I have been asked this question a number of times. My answer is most definitely that this was one of the best investments I could have made: finally I came to terms with the fact that New Zealand is my home.

Here I have been living in New Zealand not being able to fully appreciate it because I was so busy thinking about getting away from here. If anything I learned that in the past years I have changed and became more appreciative of many things Kiwi than I was aware of. At the same time the mind has been playing tricks on me by remembering the nice parts about living and working in the Netherlands and forgetting about the price that comes with it especially when it comes to family life.

In short: The Netherlands have changed and I have changed and I guess we are no longer compatible.

Instead of wasting any further time, Expedition Netherlands was aborted, and I returned to New Zealand. For the first time with a feeling of coming home. Fior the first time in well over six years I am at peace with the idea that this is where I belong now. What a great feeling.

Seth’s Blog: Willfully ignorant vs. aggressively skeptical

If you want to challenge the conventional wisdom …, please do! It’ll make the final outcome better. But if you choose to do that, it’s essential that you know more about it than everyone else, not less. Certainly not zero. Be skeptical, but be informed (about everything important, not just this issue, of course). Screaming ignorance gets attention, but it distracts us from the work at hand.

…It’s easy to fit in by yelling out, and far more difficult to actually read and consider the facts.

…, the first step is to figure out how to be the best informed person in the room.

Look at the climate change/ global warming debate, the God debate, the debates in Europe about Islamization of societies to name just a few. I guess finding the facts as opposed to the opinions is what makes being informed more and more time consuming. The facts are sometimes not as clear as they seem to be.

Being informed means that you can actually bring a constructive contribution towards the debate; a solution to whatever you are concerned about. To be the best informed in the room is what will make the difference in how convincing you are and how compelling your views will be.
Besides that being the best informed means you will have the answer to the (anticipated) questions BEFORE they are asked. It is easy being a screaming skeptic, it is harder to come up with realistic alternatives that people will accept and give a go. Back to the reading table now.